Question: Why do we always want to blame something on others? Why is accountability so important?

Speaker: When you are able to blame others, then you are able to earn certain rights for yourself. Those rights cannot come to you, if you do not say, that others are in a position to harm you. Even the law agrees to killing in self-defense. You kill a man just like that, you will be jailed. But if you kill a man in self-defense, it is considered alright. So, you can label somebody an aggressor, an attacker and what right do you get? The right to kill him. Even when the police wants to stage these fake encounters, they do not say that, “We brought these people here to the jungle and just shot them.” What do they say? They say, “You know these people were shooting at us, so in self-defense we had to kill them”, Even the police needs some kind of an excuse to kill.

So, blaming is quite nice to the ego. Blaming is a good defense against responsibility. So that you do not have to do the right action; you can just blame somebody. To not to blame is to take the onus of Right action. To not to blame is to say that, “Whatever be the situation I have to do what I have to do”. The situation demands a response and I must come up with it. Otherwise you can just say, “What do I do? I am a poor little woman and it is a dark, gory, evil world. I must hide in my nest. I cannot take any responsibility. How can I act?”

Blame

You know, for all kinds of really evil acts, you will always find a justification. One country wants to develop a nuclear weapon. The blame is never upon the ambitions of the people of that country or the politicians of that country; the blame is always upon the neighbor. The neighbor is such a trouble maker that we had to develop this nuclear bomb. Now, without the neighbor, how will you develop the bomb? So, you always need somebody to blame.

When you go to get a license for a gun, even there you have to justify; why you want the gun? You must have somebody to blame. My uncle is a rascal and I have a property dispute with him. And he has been stalking me, so I need the gun. If you don’t have an uncle, you won’t get the gun. So, we all need evil uncles and we all need property disputes, to brandish that AK-47.

You are studying and its mid night, and there is a power cut. And there is no back-up. Now, either you can say that “Oh! Too bad! We have a power cut”. And you can go off to sleep. Or you could say, “Study I must. So if there is no power, a candle is not too bad. Or I will make some other arrangements.” It is the age of technology, even mobile phones have torches.

It depends on who you are; the same situation can be responded to, in two opposite ways. You could either go off to sleep because you anyways never want to study, and now you have a convenient excuse.

“What can I do? Power cut”,“What can I do? The system is bad”,“What can I do? My computer crashed”. Or you will find a way out? Finding a way out is not very difficult.

In fact, when you are having fun doing the work then finding a way to do that work, too becomes fun.

Have you noticed that sometimes? If you really love what you are doing and the situations prevent you from doing that; then finding a way to continue doing that, too becomes an act of love. You are enjoying it and you are figuring out a way of how to continue doing it.

You go to meet your lover and you have decided to meet in a park; and the park is closed. Now would you beat your chest and cry and kick your lover? Or is it an opportunity?What is it?

Depends on who you are.

Depends on the depth of your love.

~ Excerpts from a Clarity session. Edited for clarity.

View the Session at: Why do we blame others for our mistakes?

Read more articles on this topic:

Article 1                                     Article 2                                     Article 3

3 thoughts on “Why do we blame others for our mistakes?

  1. There are various opportunities to connect to and meet Acharya Prashant. These are:

    1. Meet the Master:

    Meet the Master program is rare opportunity to meet Acharya Prashant personally, either physically or online. To meet the Master, send your application, write to requests@prashantadvait.com or contact: Ms. Anoushka Jain: +91-9818585917.

    2. Advait Learning Camps:

    Advait Learning Camps are monthly retreats organized under Acharya Prashant’s guidance. These camps are about spending four days and three nights in the lap of nature, while reading, reflecting, learning and evolving. So far, scores of ALCs have been organised in places like Rishikesh, Mukteshwar, Jim Corbett National Park, Chopta, KainchiDham, etc.
    Additionally, we organize dedicated bonding camps for kids and parents. To participate in the camp, write an e-mail to requests@prashantadvait.com, or call: Sh. Anshu Sharma at +91-8376055661.

    3. Course in Realization:

    Course in Realization, a classroom-based learning program led by Acharya Prashant, is an initiative towards disseminating clarity and intelligence in the world. In this course, a rigorous study of a scripture or a saint is undertaken each month.
    To join in, send your application, write to requests@prashantadvait.com or contact: Sh. Apaar: +91-9818591240

    4. Month of Awakening:

    For those who cannot attend sessions physically, the foundation does online streaming of few selected sessions via Skype or Webinar. Known as Month of Awakening, this facility offers live streaming of sessions and helps seekers listen to Acharya-Ji while being where they are.
    To receive the blessing, send your application to requests@prashantadvait.com or contact: Ms. Anoushka Jain: +91-9818585917

    5. Blessings from Beyond:

    Weekends with Acharya Prashant brings you the unique opportunity for a 2 day 2 night stay with the Master every month at Advait Ashram, Greater Noida. The getaway involves two mystical days of dynamic activities, explorations of the self, sports, meditative reading, deep reflections, midnight walks and more.
    To get a taste of the beyond, register yourself at requests@prashantadvait.com or contact Ms. Anu Batra:+91-9555554772

    6. Triyog:

    Daily morning 2 hour Yog feast for your total well-being. Comprising of
    Hatha Yog, Bhakti Yog and Gyan Yog.

    Send your application, write to: requests@prashantadvait.com Or to register: Contact: Shri Kundan Singh: +91-9999102998
    Venue: Advait Bodhsthal, Greater Noida, India.

    This reply comes to you from volunteers of PrashantAdvait Foundation who maintain this channel.

    Like

    1. There are various opportunities to connect to and meet Acharya Prashant. These are:

      1. Meet the Master:

      Meet the Master program is rare opportunity to meet Acharya Prashant personally, either physically or online. To meet the Master, send your application, write to requests@prashantadvait.com or contact: Ms. Anoushka Jain: +91-9818585917.

      2. Advait Learning Camps:

      Advait Learning Camps are monthly retreats organized under Acharya Prashant’s guidance. These camps are about spending four days and three nights in the lap of nature, while reading, reflecting, learning and evolving. So far, scores of ALCs have been organised in places like Rishikesh, Mukteshwar, Jim Corbett National Park, Chopta, KainchiDham, etc.
      Additionally, we organize dedicated bonding camps for kids and parents. To participate in the camp, write an e-mail to requests@prashantadvait.com, or call: Sh. Anshu Sharma at +91-8376055661.

      3. Course in Realization:

      Course in Realization, a classroom-based learning program led by Acharya Prashant, is an initiative towards disseminating clarity and intelligence in the world. In this course, a rigorous study of a scripture or a saint is undertaken each month.
      To join in, send your application, write to requests@prashantadvait.com or contact: Sh. Apaar: +91-9818591240

      4. Month of Awakening:

      For those who cannot attend sessions physically, the foundation does online streaming of few selected sessions via Skype or Webinar. Known as Month of Awakening, this facility offers live streaming of sessions and helps seekers listen to Acharya-Ji while being where they are.
      To receive the blessing, send your application to requests@prashantadvait.com or contact: Ms. Anoushka Jain: +91-9818585917

      5. Blessings from Beyond:

      Weekends with Acharya Prashant brings you the unique opportunity for a 2 day 2 night stay with the Master every month at Advait Ashram, Greater Noida. The getaway involves two mystical days of dynamic activities, explorations of the self, sports, meditative reading, deep reflections, midnight walks and more.
      To get a taste of the beyond, register yourself at requests@prashantadvait.com or contact Ms. Anu Batra:+91-9555554772

      6. Triyog:

      Daily morning 2 hour Yog feast for your total well-being. Comprising of
      Hatha Yog, Bhakti Yog and Gyan Yog.

      Send your application, write to: requests@prashantadvait.com Or to register: Contact: Shri Kundan Singh: +91-9999102998
      Venue: Advait Bodhsthal, Greater Noida, India.

      This reply comes to you from volunteers of PrashantAdvait Foundation who maintain this channel.

      Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s