Your relationships tell about your inner mechanism || Acharya Prashant (2019)

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Question: Acharya Ji, how do I have good relationships with people?

Acharya Prashant Ji: Which people?

Questioner: Friends etc.

Acharya Prashant Ji: How are they your friends?

Questioner: May be my classmates.

Acharya Prashant Ji: Just because somebody is a classmate, does he qualify as a friend?

Questioner: May be any person.

Acharya Prashant Ji: Any person is your friend?

Questioner: I don’t feel that my relationship is good with anyone

Acharya Prashant Ji: First of all I want to understand that why do you want to have relationships with people.

Who do you call as ‘friend’?

Who do you call as ‘someone worth having a relationship with’?

Questioner: I have never thought about it.

Acharya Prashant Ji: Think about it.

Questioner: Using the person as a mirror to know oneself is relationship.

Acharya Prashant Ji:

In general anybody you relate to, the relationship is a mirror. Whatsoever is happening in any relationship will tell you a lot about yourself. That’s what a mirror does – it tells you about yourself.

Whatever you do in any relationship holds a mirror to you.

It tells you how your inner self is, how your tendencies are, how your ego is operating. It does not really refer to any specific person functioning as a mirror.

Relationship itself is a mirror, does not matter with whom. Your relationship with the cow, your relationship with the waiter in the hotel, your relationship with your chauffeur, your relationship with you father, mother, batchmate, classmate. Your relationship with the unknown person, your relationship with the environment, your relationship with your clothes.

If you can see why you are related to the other and in what way, to what end, that will tell you about your inner mechanism.

Why do you choose the particular brand of T-shirts?

Why do you keep your hair the way you do?

All these things are a matter of relationships, right?

You have a relationship with your body, you have a relationship with your hair. You have a relationship with that pair of jeans. Why exactly are you choosing something, and why not? Why do you use certain words more often than others? Why do you prefer certain kind of food?

All that is in the purview of relationships.

There is no self-observation possible without looking into relationships.

In fact, the whole thing of self-observation is the thing of relationships.

How else will you observe the self?

How else will you observe yourself?

You do not exist independent of others.

So whenever you will have to observe yourself, you will have look at your connection with others.

Think about these things.


Watch the session video: Your relationships tell about your inner mechanism || Acharya Prashant (2019) The transcription has been edited for clarity.


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